This is a positive post...a post for the girl who is watching her best friend feel defeated by a break up. The moment that a relationship ends...usually a long one, is terrifying to the person going through the breakup. Life as they know it is going through a major overhaul (usually one that is necessary for personal growth), but for a very long time, he or she hasn't done much without thinking about the person they've broken up with.
Being a person who has gone through a breakup, and is now in a healthy, loving relationship, I can tell you that it isn't easy to go through something like this, BUT I can also tell you that it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I'm making a list of a few things you can do to help your friend through one of the toughest times of their life.
1. Go to the bookstore and buy them the book, It's Called A Breakup Because it's Broken. I literally stumbled over this book one night browsing the internet while nursing my broken heart. It woke me up from feeling sad for myself. It made me realize that this breakup was necessary because I didn't deserve the crap I endured. Here's a little summary from Amazon.com:
"There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right here, right now, it’s time to dry your tears, put down that pint of ice cream, log out of his e-mail, and open this book to Chapter One–and start turning your breakup into a breakover.
From Greg Behrendt, the co-author of the smash two-million copy bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You, comes It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken--the ultimate survival guide to getting over Mr. Wrong and reclaiming your inner Superfox. From how to put yourself through “he-tox,” to how to throw yourself a kick-ass pity party, Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game. You will learn:
• Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do
• How to keep your friends and not lose your job
• How to avoid breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex
• Reframing reality—seeing the relationship for what it was
• How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, brighter future that awaits
Complete with an essential workbook to help you put the crazy down on paper and not take it out into the world, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken is a must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you."
From Greg Behrendt, the co-author of the smash two-million copy bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You, comes It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken--the ultimate survival guide to getting over Mr. Wrong and reclaiming your inner Superfox. From how to put yourself through “he-tox,” to how to throw yourself a kick-ass pity party, Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game. You will learn:
• Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do
• How to keep your friends and not lose your job
• How to avoid breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex
• Reframing reality—seeing the relationship for what it was
• How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, brighter future that awaits
Complete with an essential workbook to help you put the crazy down on paper and not take it out into the world, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken is a must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you."
2. Tell her to shut off the radio. One of my closest friends told me while I was going through the toughest days was to stop listening to the damn radio. You don't realize how many songs are about love until your heart is being ripped out of your chest.
3. Listen to Kelly Clarkson's Album, Stronger. Go here and buy it: amazon.com
This girl is a genius when it comes to making girls feel empowered and better about themselves. It got me through. It will help your friend, too.
4. Check in on her more than you think you should. Be there for her. Call her up and get her out of the house on the weekends. She needs to feel like she has a life outside of her house.
5. Buy her an alarm clock. She needs to get up every single work day and go to work. Don't let her sit home and eat ice cream. She'll be a boyfriend-less, job-less, girl. That's not attractive to anyone else out there. The best thing I could have done was get my crying ass out of bed every single day.
6. Schedule a mini-getaway. Have a girls weekend and get her brain busy!
7. Let her date whenever she's ready to date. She'll know when she's ready. Be her "check in" friend if/when she decides to online date.
I can't tell you how important friends are to a girl who has a broken heart. These tips will help, and before you both know it, you'll be gushing about Mr. Right instead of hating on Mr. Wrong. I promise!!
Tonight we are linking up with Creative-Geekery for the Pin-It Party and Fry Sauce and Grits for theBe.You.Tiful Party!
These are some great tips! That book looks funny and so honest! Thank you so much for linking up to the Be.You.Tiful Link Party!
ReplyDeleteHi Courtney! The book is so honest! It's the reality check every girl needs when she's heartbroken! Thanks for stopping by our blog!
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