I can't believe I'm actually writing this post. I'm no dating expert...but ever since I entered the single world again almost two years ago, I've had my share of experiences in this area. Once I started dating again and sharing stories with my best friends, I've been told I could write a book. I won't be sharing specific stories, but I will share what I have learned.
The first thing you should know is that you will not be single forever. Please get this dumb thinking out of your head. When I was living through the dark days of heartbreak, this swirled through my head like a tornado. Thank God I had good friends and family who were there to catch me when I felt like my world was upside down. Don't get me wrong, beware of the people who just say the dumbest things to you. A "close friend" told me right after my breakup "Oh...well you know...you're just going to have to get used to being alone." Yeah, don't worry. We aren't friends anymore. But seriously...you're going to be okay.
The first thing I'm going to tell you is that when you think you're ready to date...you aren't. Give yourself as much time as you need to get back on your feet. Once you are ready, you'll know it. Put yourself out there and be open to new experiences. My group of girlfriends is in a completely different spot than I am. Most of the girls are married or engaged...they're attached. I knew I had to meet guys in other ways. I wasn't going to meet someone at home...and I wasn't going to meet someone at work!
1. Talk to your friends about online dating sites. See who's met their significant other online, and find out what sites your friends used. PLEASE don't use a free site. I can't say this enough. You get what you pay for. If you want something real, you have to shell out some cash. Don't think of it as paying to meet someone. Think of it as giving yourself enough respect to be sure you're meeting good, genuine guys.
2. When someone says they know someone who is single, be open to it. You never know how it will work out. :)
3. Sign up for activities that you like to do. By going out, you're putting yourself out there doing something you like. Chances are, you'll meet someone with similar interests. If anything, you'll gain some new friends!
I have had so many people tell me this...but when you least expect it, things seem to just work out. Just take it one thing at a time. Something I do recommend is that you get to know the person before you plan to meet them. Regardless of where you meet them (online or through a friend), chat with them first to see if your conversations are compatible. If you're interested, go ahead and make plans! It could be the best thing you could have ever done!
My next Dating 101 post will be about preparing for the first date!
Wishing you luck in love,
Amanda
If you ever have any dating questions, please post a comment below! I'll be sure to give you my best advice!
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